I don’t care what other politically correct folks say about this “not considering gender”, but when boys hit their teenage years and suddenly have access to a “man figure” that they never had in the past, attitudes, and behavior might change. It might be a tough decision for you to say this but perhaps you should tell him that he can go and live with his father permanently. No need for him to come back home to you since he doesn’t really want to be with you anymore. Why should you tolerate his rudeness, insults, and disrespect? Hey! Before he was born, you had a life!

Your situation sounds suspect. It’s like your ex did a number on you and turned your child against you. He’s not so much interested in raising his son as he is with hurting you. He may have been waiting years for his revenge and loves being able to torment you this way. Your ex may not really want to take on the full weight of the responsibility of caring for a teenage boy, as you did during the child’s formative years. You need to find out what “the game” is. Don’t be surprised if things change again when daddy has to carry the whole weight and responsibility for finishing what you started. You raise a nice child that he seems to turn into a monster. Let him live with his “creation”. Young boys eventually turn into men.

It’s just advice supplied by an outside observer. I know it would a hard decision for you to make. Many times mothers are faced with extremely difficult decisions. Sometimes the decision involves letting go. I’m not a professional. Feel free to totally ignore every word that I’ve written.